The Teenage Mind: New ideas
This book is in essence a collection of my notes from thirty years of running workshops, lectures and seminars on the topic of adolescence and teenagers, covering such things as their parents, families, peers, sex, love & relationships and counselling the teenager. It is what I have found is wanted by people who have to live and work with them. From their questions and areas of interest the seven chapters in this book cover what many seek to know about teenagers.
This is primarily an information book. It is not a “How to do therapy with the teenager book”. Of course its content will be relevant to the counsellor but it is more just providing information about the adolescent. Much of the content of this book you will not find in the literature about teenagers. It contains many new ideas and ways of understanding the teenager that I have not seen in the literature before, hence the subtitle of the book.
For example I discuss the secret life of the teenager. Those who live or work with teenagers are often distracted onto the problems the teenager can present and forget about the rest of their psychological world. This book has a chapter devoted to precisely that. Other than teenage anger and angst this book looks at their psychology not related to that. How to address this and get into that part of the teenage mind.
Also presented is how the teenager separates his or her identity from the parents. This has been discussed many times before in the literature but presented here is a new way of looking at it called the Triphasic separation theory. This results in the Adolescent Separation Individuation Scale where one can score self an others as to how successful they have been in their separation. Many adults and parents who complete this scale for themselves can be a bit surprised!
There is another section called teenagers and sex. Usually books on this topic will talk about the genitals, contraception, sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. This book covers none of that but looks at the psychology behind the sex. I have not seen this done before in the way it is done here. Certainly with teenagers this is rarely covered and is of such importance. How love, sex and relationships combine and how to manage them the best one can.
Chapter 1. Adolescence as a stage of development The history of adolescence
Male and female skill development in adolescence
Male and female differences
Chapter 2. Tasks teenagers must master
The eight tasks
Adolescent Separation Individuation Scale
Chapter 3. Developing one’s own identity
Process of attachment and detachment
Mother and the young child
Triphasic separation individuation theory of child development
Chapter 4. The role of family in adolescence
The dysfunctional dyad and triad
Emeshed and distancing families
Chapter 5. Adolescence and authority problems
Conformity as an authority problem
Chapter 6. Teenagers and sex
The psychology of sex
Men, women and attraction
What constitutes normal sexual desire
Communication about sex
Sex and relationships
Relationship dynamics and pornography
Chapter 7. Secret world of the teenager
The secret world
The romantic world of the teenager
Working with drug and alcohol users
Chapter 1 - Drugs in society and addiction
Historical and contemporary views of addiction. Drugs are a political issue and how this negatively impacts on drug counselling.
Chapter 2 - Fundamental components of drug counseling
Facts about the three groups of drugs. Peak age of use and other drug features. Gateway drugs. Drug of choice. Polydrug use. The need to be truthful about drug effects and dangers with clients. Urine testing. Paruresis. Drug induced psychosis.
Chapter 3 - Transactional Analysis and the theory of addiction
Theory of personality. Ego states and the newborn child. The functional ego states. Transactions. Transactional analysis theory of dependence and addiction. Addiction and attachment.
Chapter 4 - Why people use drugs and their treatment
The effects of alcohol on personality. Reasons for using drugs. Experimental drug use and counselling. Rebellious drug use and counselling. Recreational drug use and counselling. Situational drug use and counselling. Symptomatic drug use and counselling. Dependent drug use and counselling.
Chapter 5 - The harm reduction contract and harm reduction counseling
The moral issue in harm minimization. The difficulty of using harm minimization information. Ego states and negotiating safety. Therapeutic relationship and negotiating safety. The harm reduction contracting process. Harm reduction counselling. Suicide and drug use. Harm reduction counselling and defence mechanisms. Harm minimization and youth.
Chapter 6 - Assessment of the drug and alcohol user
Presenting issues. Taking a client history. Drug use history. Drug use timeline. Assessing drug users who have been in prison. How do they get their drugs? Relationships with peers and partner. Stages of change.
Chapter 7 - Drug use ambivalence
The drug use ambivalence therapeutic technique.
Chapter 8 - Relapse process work
Diagnosing the type of drug use. The relapse process. The dependent drug using career. Problems with the stages of change model. Geographically relocating as a therapeutic strategy. Relapse prevention counselling. Drug/drink refusal skills. Assessing the level of deprivation in relapse prevention. The parts party technique in relapse prevention. Drug use ambivalence and relapse work.
Chapter 9 - Motivational interviewing
Two types of motivational interviewing. Cognitive (Adult ego state) motivational interviewing. Experiential (Child ego state) motivational interviewing. Motivational interviewing and the impasse.
Chapter 10 - The teenage drug user
Changes in the adolescent stage of development in the last 50 years. Why teenagers use drugs. Peers and drug use. Working with the teenage client. How the counsellor relates to the teenage drug user. Teenage drug use and family structure. The hot potatoe and the teenager. Parents and the teenager. Scare tactics with the teenager. Dealing with a disclosure by the teenager. Urine testing teenagers.
Description of book
This book is designed for counsellors and those who come into contact with drug and alcohol users as part of their work or in someway in their life. It provides a somewhat new look at this complex area by using a Transactional Analysis approach. This has been done before but rarely to the extent that one finds in this book. This provides a comprehensive statement about drug and alcohol use using the theory of Transactional Analysis as the underlying approach. Other approaches are also discussed, including the Gestalt approach and cognitive behavioral therapy as these also contribute significantly when working with substance users.
All the customary areas are covered including a theory of addiction, the assessment of the drug user and different motivations as to why people use drugs. This different approach allows for the development of new and innovative approaches to well known counselling problem areas. These are included in the book and have not been seen before in the literature.
Harm minimization is covered in detail. Central to the transactional analysis approach is the idea of therapeutic contracts. From this is described a technique called the harm reduction contract. This describes how the client and counsellor work together to develop a contract for the implementation of harm reduction strategies. It describes a four step process by which the drug user can make a harm reduction contact with the help of the counsellor. Also covered in the area of harm reduction is self harm and drug use, suicide and drug use, dealing with defense mechanisms in harm reduction counselling and so forth.
Another very common area in drug counselling is motivational interviewing. This is extensively covered in this book. By using Transactional Analysis one can develop two different types of motivational interviewing. The usual techniques involving the behavior approach are covered and this could be seen as the Adult ego state approach to this area. In addition to this, the Child ego state can be used as an avenue of motivational interviewing. This book describes a variety of Child ego state approaches. It opens up a whole new approach to motivational interviewing that has rarely been discussed before.
The most problematic type of drug user is the dependent drug user who is usually seen as the drug addict type of person. Considerable time in the book is spent looking at how this person functions and what counselling approaches may be successful with them. The approach in this book emphasizes the relationship between the drug and the drug user again using the Transactional Analysis principles of symbiosis and dependency. The drug dependent user develops a symbiotic relationship with the drug in the same way a person can develop a dependent relationship with a partner. Indeed this person will have a pattern of relationships in their life that tend to be dependent in nature such that the relationship they have to the drug is the same in nature. The approach described here looks at how one can end the dependent relationship with the drug and a variety of strategies are described.
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Working with Suicidal Individuals - A Guide to Providing Understanding, Assessment and Support. 2011. Jessica Kingsley Publishers: London
Working with Suicidal Individuals provides a comprehensive guide to understanding suicide, the assessment of risk, and the treatment and management of suicidal individuals.
It begins by covering the theory behind suicidal behaviour, using Transactional Analysis to explore the personality types of suicidal individuals and to understand their motivations. Factors that contribute to an individual becoming suicidal, such as mental illness, are also explored. A comprehensive system for the assessment of suicide risk is provided, including both quantitative and qualitative approaches. Finally, the author discusses different ways suicidal and pseudo-suicidal individuals can be managed and treated, including the 'no suicide contract' and redecision therapy. Case studies are included throughout to demonstrate the theory and practice. This book will be essential reading for all those working with a suicidal or at-risk individual including practitioners in health, social work, psychiatry, psychotherapy, psychology and counselling.
Contents - Chapters
Part 1. Understanding Suicide. 1. Introduction. 2. What is Suicide? 3. Transactional Analysis. 4. The Suicide Decision. 5. Modeling Suicidal Behavior. 6. Reactions to High Stress. 7. Suicide and Self-Harm.
Part 2. Assessing Suicide Risk. 8. Quantitative Measures of Assessing Suicide Risk. 9. Qualitative Measures of Assessing Suicide Risk.
Part 3. Supporting the Suicidal Individual. 10. The Suicide Secret and the Deliberate Suicide Risk. 11. Pseudo-Suicide, Suicide and Teenage Suicide. 12. Suicidal Ambivalence. 13. Suicidal Timelines. 14. The No-Suicide Contract. 15. Redecision Therapy. Epilogue. Appendix A: Stopper Analysis. References. Further Reading. Index.
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'The experience and competence of Tony White counselling suicidal clients is evident. He inspires confidence in others finding themselves working with such clients by his thorough analysis of suicide decisions, how to assess risk via a range of quantitative and qualitative tools, and how to contract effectively to support the client to live differently. Contemporary research into suicide is combined with the classical and redecision traditions of transactional analysis theories to provide an underpinning map to orient professional thinking and actions. Additionally he shares his expertise in working with high risk groups of prisoners and adolescents, and also describes working with those who self-harm, to create a useful and necessary guide.'
- Rosemary Napper, Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst (Counselling), British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy Accredited and President of the International Transactional Analysis Association 2009-2010
This book has also been translated into Korean
Other books by Tony White
Staying Alive: A handbook of the no suicide contract
This book addresses the important subject of suicide. Why do people come to take their own life, what are the signs which show up in a suicidal person, teenage suicide, anger and depression are just some of the areas covered. The idea that suicidal people make a decision early in life to harm them selves is presented along with case examples. The no suicide contract and no suicide cards are explained in detail as a means of assisting a person to stay alive when they are feeling self destructive. Also included is working with the terminally ill and using suicide threats as manipulation and power plays. 70 pages.
Adolescence, Anger, and What to Do: A happy teenager is not a healthy teenager
This book looks at adolescence, anger and emotions in general. Tony presents his new ideas on these very topical subjects. Most people believe a healthy teenager is a happy teenager. This is not so. The normal teenager is often angry, rebellious, confused and can be quite insecure. To not feel these things is to miss a whole stage of development which is most unhealthy. Anger is a common problem emotion for humans. Tony shows how to understand it, and deal with it so one can access the positives that anger can provide. The curative powers of anger are described. 50 pages.
Creative Feeling: How to understand and deal with your child’s feelings
This book was originally written to show parents how to deal with their children’s feelings. It is also however for adults who want to understand what feelings are and how to manage them in a simple and easy to understand way. This includes analyzing what feelings you allow or prohibit from yourself, as well as analyzing how you express the various feelings. Topics covered are: temporary and character feelings, teaching feelings, problems with feelings. 53 pages
How Kids Grow Up and Leave Home: Two years old, four years old and adolescence.
This book looks at the bonding and separation humans go through in their lives. In particular it examines how children separate from parents and how parents separate from children. Written in a simple and easy to understand style it begins by describing how people become bonded or attached in relationships. Exercises are provided for self examination in this way. A new addition to TA theory is also given with the script imago, which provides a new way for relationship analysis. Other topics covered include: the separation cycle, how people show they have separation problems, ritualized separation. 78 pages.
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